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Friday 17 February 2023
hustle dan overwork bukan budaya kita
Tuesday 14 February 2023
I literally stopped breastfeeding my baby when I wrote this
Terganggu banget dengan beberapa orang yang menyebutkan dan mengaitkan Fortuner atau Pajero dengan arogansi. KARENA NGGAK ADA HUBUNGANNYA.
When someone is driving, they legally need and must pass the driving test. Which most Indonesians easily get through jalur 'nembak'. This is a serious issue, as driving is a dangerous type of activity especially kalo dilakukan di jalan raya dengan banyak pengguna jalan lainnya terlibat di jalan tersebut.
First thing first, psikologi dan mental seseorang adalah faktor utama dalam mengendarai mobil/motor. YES, psikologi dan mental. Dua hal yang sangat manusiawi banget dan bahkan ada studi dan expertnya sendiri. PLUS psikologis dan mental seseorang dalam mengendarai kendaraan bermotor. DOUBLE TROUBLE.
Saat acquiring driving license, di Eropa bahkan syarat SEBELUM kemampuan tes menyetir adalah MEDICAL REQUIREMENT. Artinya, seseorang harus sehat dan waras secara fisik dan mental untuk MEMILIKI driving license. Let alone driving a car.
That's the main issue dengan arogansi yang akhirnya ditunjukkan oleh para pengendara motor atau mobil di SELURUH BAGIAN DUNIA saat sedang di belakang kemudi dalam berbagai kondisi dan waktu. Mau mobilnya mewah atau angkot dan becak sekalipun, seseorang yang psikologis dan mentalnya tidak bisa dikontrol dengan baik akan berakibat buruk bagi dirinya sendiri dan orang di sekitarnya. Apalagi yang sambil mabuk, under influence of alcohol, drugs and medicine.
So please, stop generalising and relating between car (brands and types) with the driver's behaviour. And leave the brand alone! LOL. Bedakan antara:
1. Mampu membeli mobil
2. Mampu memiliki mobil
3. Mampu mengendarai mobil
dengan
4. Mampu mengontrol emosi saat mengendarai mobil DI JALANAN.
Kalo di jalanan, you have to follow the rules. Remember that the road belongs to many people, not only you. Even bom bom car aja ada peraturannya kan: wear your safety belt, if you're feeling unwell then don't drive, also mind the object around you. Because that's the basic.
Last but not least, the recent issue about an incident in Senopati, Jakarta, the media and many more news outlets, including social media are discussing this in many many perspectives and opinion. Keep your mind opened and CONDUCT THE MEDIA AND DIGITAL LITERACY!
Be mindful!
References:
https://europa.eu/youreurope/citizens/vehicles/driving-licence/get-driving-licence/index_en.htm
https://kumparan.com/kumparannews/kronologi-fortuner-tabrak-brio-versi-giorgio-1zpTddLiune
Friday 25 November 2022
You Matter
Dear Self
You matter. You play an important role in this life, and you are important to some individuals. Not a few people are expecting and hoping a lot from you. You have to stay sane and you have to stay strong. You are the place to go for your kids, you are the core of their education. You are awaited and anticipated.
No matter how painful days can be, or saddening situation might be. No matter how hard tasks hit you, and no matter how bitter life can turn, you have to stand up and stand still. Rest your problems and thoughts to Allah. Let shalah and sabr be your rescue in any situation. Don't stop believing that Allah listens, He forgives and He loves you.
Remember, whatever happens, you have to remain resilient, persistent and sane.
That's the key.
best regards
yourself
Wednesday 16 November 2022
The Day You Said I Love You but in Foreign Language
You are the luckiest, because I speak Foreign Language. I absolutely know and understand the language you speak, and though conflict happened, it wasn't because I didn't understand it, but because I chose to be angry instead of accepting.
But last night was special. You said "I love you" in Foreign Language, which I think you think I don't know, or I don't care. But I know, and it means so much to me. The more special thing was it happened during my sober time, I wasn't asleep or unconscious, I was fully awake and in my brain's primetime.
Of course I still dislike quite some things and moment. But dislike-ness isn't my priority these days, I have selected the best emotions and managed the best reaction and action towards all situation by realising that we can always CHOOSE how to behave. I can always CHOOSE to stay quiet or to speak up. I can always CHOOSE to start and respond the conflict or sit down and watch.
Yes, I occasionally love watching failures, especially by the result of my non-preference. I enjoy it and I treasure it. Not because I am mean, but I basically enjoy every moment in this life. Where it doesn't always go your way, but you can always have a way to embrace it.
Go through it. Someday you will understand why it happened.