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Biggest mistakes men make: 1. They ignore the details 2. They sleep before their wives. Let me tell you: Don't. Female is the most complicated creature in this world. They're made of a man's rib, yet they are not below men to be ordered and controlled. They are not above men because biologically and physically not equally as strong as men, yet they have this other powers that men don't. One of those powers is presence . A woman remembers what you said two weeks ago, what you didn’t notice yesterday, and how you looked at her just this morning. She lives in the details. The little things you ignore are the very things that shape how she feels loved, safe, and seen. Don't believe her when she says "I'm okay", and "I'm used to it", and "it's not a big deal", and other too good to be true statements. No. She is not okay, and if you touch her in certain part(s) SHE WILL BREAKDOWN and probably burst into tears. She is on denial at...

Pak Presiden minta rakyat boleh berpendapat asal sopan. Maaf pak, cara sopan ternyata ngga kedengeran. Gue lihat-lihat para ' pejabat ' pelayan publik kudu banyak lagi belajar soal esensi berhadapan dengan RAKYAT, yes, para boss itu kita sebut RAKYAT yang mereka wakili dan harusnya mereka naungi. Apa yang harus pertama dibenerin? Semoga husnul khotimah Affan, dan semoga syahid jalanmu Prinsip Komunikasi Publik.  1. Transparansi (Keterbukaan) Informasi publik harus disampaikan secara jelas, lengkap, dan mudah diakses oleh masyarakat agar tidak menimbulkan kesalahpahaman. - bikin live streaming semua kegiatan formal dan agenda kenegaraan yang melibatkan hajat orang banyak. 2. Akuntabilitas Komunikasi yang dilakukan pemerintah  penyelenggara negara harus dapat dipertanggungjawabkan, baik dari segi isi, sumber, maupun dampaknya. - jangan asal ngomong dan nyanyi. 3. Konsistensi Pesan yang disampaikan harus selaras antar lembaga/instansi pemerintah, tidak kontradiktif, dan mengikuti...

Kenangan Masa Kecil yang Menikam Kembali Aku teringat satu momen saat SD dulu. Seorang teman bertanya, “Kalau besar nanti mau jadi apa?” Dengan polos aku menjawab, “Aku mau jadi guru.” Spontan ia menjawab, “Ih kok mau jadi guru? Kan guru gajinya kecil.” Waktu itu aku menganggap dia terlalu materialistis. Naif, pikirku, karena menganggap impian jadi guru hanya sebatas angka rupiah. Tapi hari ini, ucapan polos anak 12 tahun itu kembali mengetuk benakku. Kali ini, dengan dimensi yang berbeda. Dengan perih yang nyata. Hari ini aku kehilangan nafsu makan. Aku hanya ingin menangis. Bukan karena persoalan pribadi, tapi karena kabar yang kembali menyeruak: nasib guru honorer di negeri ini masih begitu getir. Sebagai seorang dosen, aku merasa malu. Malu pada diriku sendiri, malu pada bangsa yang seolah menutup mata. Bagaimana mungkin orang-orang yang kita titipi masa depan anak-anak, orang-orang yang menjaga api pengetahuan, justru menerima imbalan yang bahkan tak layak disebut seba...

Asli deh, kapan kita mau sadar yang viral itu belum tentu yang penting? Di zaman serba digital ini, apapun bisa viral dalam hitungan menit. Tapi pernahkah kamu bertanya, does going viral mean something really matters? Not always. What is "Viral Content"? Menurut Cambridge Dictionary , viral content is “something that becomes very popular by being passed from person to person, especially through the internet.” Menurut Jonah Berger dalam bukunya Contagious: Why Things Catch On , content can go viral karena beberapa faktor seperti: Emotional triggers (content yang memancing emosi, terutama emosi tinggi seperti marah, senang, takut), Social currency (orang ingin terlihat keren atau up-to-date), Storytelling (konten dibungkus dalam cerita yang menarik), Practical value (ada nilai guna langsung), dan Public visibility (mudah dilihat orang lain dan ditiru). Tapi here's the problem: not all viral content is meaningful . In fact, banyak sekali yang viral karena hanya ...

The other day, my friend was feeling pretty low. He kept saying, "Nobody cares. Nobody checks on me anymore." It’s tough to see someone you care about hurting like that. But as we talked, I realised something important: He wasn’t actually abandoned — he was just stuck in a mindset that made him feel alone, even when he wasn’t. This made me think of Sadness from Inside Out 2 . If you remember her (how could you not?), Sadness is that little blue teardrop of a character who feels everything deeply . She sees the world through a heavy, emotional lens, which can sometimes make even normal situations feel overwhelmingly lonely. Here’s the truth: Loneliness isn’t just about how many texts or invites you get. It’s a state of mind . You can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely, or be completely alone and feel totally at peace. According to research by Hawkley and Cacioppo (2010), loneliness is actually more about the perception of social isolation than about real, phy...

— And Why You Should Care About How It’s Stored and Shared Yesterday, I caught up with an old friend over coffee — someone I deeply admire for her work in the field of marketing and communication consultancy. She’s currently handling a crisis case involving a public figure whose academic credentials are being questioned. But the twist is: her client isn’t the public figure — it’s the institution that's now under scrutiny. People are asking: “Is it true this person graduated from your university?” - What makes it tough, she told me, is the absence of a reliable digital trail. “Back then,” she said, “the graduation records were still paper-based. There were no standardised digital archives, no traces and solid online proof of verified diplomas, no university portal like the ones we see today.” In short, the institution can’t provide a verifiable digital proof, even though the person may well have graduated legitimately. And now, they’re paying the price in credibility. That conversa...

In today’s hyper-connected digital world, Gen Z faces an overwhelming flood of information every day. With platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube constantly delivering bite-sized content, they’re exposed to news, opinions, and trends at a speed never seen before. While this offers access to diverse perspectives, it also creates information overload —making it harder to distinguish between reliable facts and misleading content. For instance, a viral TikTok might spread health misinformation that seems convincing because it's well-edited and shared by a popular influencer, even if it's scientifically inaccurate. Another major hurdle is the culture of instant gratification that dominates digital spaces. Gen Z is used to fast, on-demand content—think 15-second videos, eye-catching headlines, and memes that prioritise entertainment over depth. This often leads to superficial understanding and a reluctance to engage with long-form articles or complex arguments. For example, ...

Tapi budaya kita adalah making sure we are noticed. Kalo kalian tau, kenapa sampe ada istilah ' hustle culture' itu adalah karena semakin banyak FENOMENA KERJA LEMBUR YANG DIROMANTISASI di media sosial dan channel komunikasi lainnya. Yes, kalo mau fokus pada konteksnya, bagaimana akhirnya fenomena ini dicap jadi budaya  ya banyak yang pamer  bahwa mereka lagi qerka qeras bagai quda. Okay maaf bukan pamer  tapi sharing dan berbagi keadaan mereka yang sedang bekerja, dan terkadang dibumbui dengan ekspresi suka duka dalam pekerjaan mereka. Bagi yang menganggap ini hal baik, ya akhirnya masuk kaum glorifier of hustle culture. Bagi yang menganggap ini hal buruk, ya bisa mulai bilang ini toxic culture dan berdampak negatif. Di satu sisi mengangkat the idea of kerja keras, kerja smart, kegigihan, kecintaan pada kerjaan, passionate worker, dedikasi tinggi, profesionalisme, disiplin dan integritas, atau mental dan etos kerja bagus, dan hal positif lainnya deh. Sisi ini biasanya me...

 Terganggu banget dengan beberapa orang yang menyebutkan dan mengaitkan Fortuner atau Pajero dengan arogansi. KARENA NGGAK ADA HUBUNGANNYA. When someone is driving, they legally need and must pass the driving test. Which most Indonesians easily get through jalur 'nembak'. This is a serious issue, as driving is a dangerous type of activity especially kalo dilakukan di jalan raya dengan banyak pengguna jalan lainnya terlibat di jalan tersebut.  First thing first, psikologi dan mental seseorang adalah faktor utama dalam mengendarai mobil/motor. YES, psikologi dan mental. Dua hal yang sangat manusiawi banget dan bahkan ada studi dan expertnya sendiri. PLUS psikologis dan mental seseorang dalam mengendarai kendaraan bermotor. DOUBLE TROUBLE. Saat acquiring driving license, di Eropa  bahkan syarat SEBELUM kemampuan tes menyetir adalah MEDICAL REQUIREMENT. Artinya, seseorang harus sehat dan waras secara fisik dan mental untuk MEMILIKI driving license. Let alone driving a car. Th...

Alex pull his chair and sit uncomfortably, regardless how many times he switched position. "My wife is a disaster. Before we got married, she was so independent, brilliant and charming. After the first child, there isn't any day she isn't complaining about... anything. Literally anything. The way I drink my coffee, the way I tie my shoes, the way I shut the front door, all day long until I get home, she still yaps about how smelly my shirt is. I am so exhausted listening to her so-called-concerns!" That only happens in his head. Billy didn't hear it. Instead, Billy offers him a cigarette an ask if his work is okay, Yes, boys don't talk about wives. Not a good one, not a bad one. "My boss gave me a crazy shit assignment today, he wants me to give training to all employees in all regions, in only one week! Crazy isn't it!" Alex starts the conversation by answering Billy's question about work and everything at the office. "That's insane...

Pulang dari Pandeglang, aku seperti mendapat banyak oleh-oleh moral yang menyadarkan akan hal baru tentang hidup; dunia ini nggak cuma hitam dan putih. Aku melihat keluarga-keluarga Sunda dan nilai budaya Islam ala leluhurnya. Aku melihat sosok keramahan di sebuah desa bernama Tamanjaya, di kampung Paniis dan aku belajar bahwa cinta itu bermacam bentuknya. Sepertinya nggak adil kalo kubilang "jahat dan salah" kepada seorang nenek yang membawa cucunya bekerja sambil mengumpat manja tiap bocah 1.5tahun itu jatuh dari langkah kecilnya. Aku selalu tau bahwa parenting itu berat, tapi nggak adil juga jika seorang nenek yang aku tidak tau latar belakangnya harus kunilai "salah" saat menyertakan cucunya di kesehariannya. Dan banyak kisah keluarga dan parenting lainnya yang membuatku miris, hingga aku dipaksa menerima hanya dalam hitungan tiga hari kerja. Belum lagi kisah 97 murid sekolah dasar yang minim sentuhan kemajuan dan teknologi padahal pandemi memaksa untuk berevolu...

I am getting more and more sceptical about so many things, including my country. Despite the fact that I love my country so much, I feel like the home-works are getting more and more redundant and hopeless. I don't wanna talk about the government, it'd include too much narrative on politics and cruelty. Let's talk about the people. 80 percent of the population owns cellphone and connected to 24hrs internet access. We are supposed to be the agent of change, agent of peace, agent of whatever it is that make us more human by utilising the technology that surrounds us. Again, it's the matter of the morality. How much schools aren't teaching us to be human, schools teaching us to be 'the fittest' or let's just say, 'the fettish'. We compete, consciously and subconsciously with ourselves, our friends and relatives, our community, even our common goals. We contradict our goals every day, we create a new wall between each other and call it 'boundary...

Kemarin perjalanan mudik dan balik dari Jakarta ke Pati ke Jakarta lagi banyak ngobrol sama Gusmin sang supir yang ternyata masih sanak saudaraku. Aku sadar banyak temuan baru dalam diri manusia, dimana salah satunya ya Rasa dan Perasaan. Salah satu bahan obrolan kami adalah anak, yaiyalah yah sebagai parents jaman now, gak jauh dari anak. Kebetulan anaknya Gusmin dan Sky cuma beda 2 tahun, Bilqis 5 tahun, Sky 3 tahun. Adiknya juga deketan, anak kedua Gusmin cowok, namanya Al umurnya 11 bulan, dan Karim 12 bulan. Mirip kan? So anyway we began with how much the sisters hurt their little brothers. Ternyata sama aja. Walau kayaknya kirain Bilqis lebih dewasa bisa baik dan sayang adik, ternyata 11-12 sama Sky. Jealousy, envy and competitiveness. Lalu beralih ke obrolan belanja dapur anak, susu, popok, makanan. We agree that it's so hard to manage the grocery expenses, dan dari sudut pandang istri dan suami, aku jadi paham how big a father's responsibility and sacrifice is. Same t...

Eh, maksudnya di Jakarta. Tapi Dylan ini dari Zimbabwe. We talked over Instagram DM the other day and we talked deep about something shallow; my blog. I didn't know this blog had an impact for some people that I think wouldn't care. But Dylan made me realised that actually it's important to update this. Not only because he's still unsure if he has to make his own, or just stay with his Instagram (in collab with Tamana) account to pour down their thoughts, BUT ALSO I need to update my blog, seriously! So I asked if he wants to be featured on my blog, he said yes. I was thrilled to receive his piece, because personally I think his thoughts and writings are great. They say literal things in the most metaphorical way. I mean look at this writing!!!! (PS: I edited the grammatical sense just to make it.. you know, grammatically okay) Without a voice There are certain things in life that make me who I am. The way I cross my legs when I sit. The way I walk like an Engli...

Barusan habis riset via chat WA sama beberapa temen cowok (dan cewek) tentang "if I ask you "majalah cowok" what crosses your mind?" You know what majority answer is? PLAYBOY. That's number one most answers. Nggak kaget, sama sekali nggak kaget. Habis buka Google pun yang keluar entry sejenis kok: Tentunya nama nama di atas muncul juga kok di jawaban temen-temenku, baik yang cowok maupun cewek. Kata lain yang keluar adalah "popular" "men's health" "Music & Guitar" "atletis" "cewek seksi" dan beberapa nama majalah tua yang hanya dia yang jawab (re: mas Arya) lol. But seriously, many answers came back and they are all quite reasonable and interesting.. like this one: ANYWAY It's safe to say that men have literature to read too, lol, nope joking. I mean, men have things to read too, even I think more categories compared to ladies': 1. Fashion, 2. Horoscope, 3. Lifestyle, 4. Bea...

WATCH THIS!!! I am still not sure if 'women' have to be celebrated. I don't know if I am a feminist, or a non-feminist, or a neutral one if there's such thing. I used to agree to equality and respect for male and female because humans are not to be divided by their sex, biological differences, and gender. I think what makes a human human is how much they mean to themselves, their society, their future. As simple as that. But that simple thing gets more complicated when I break down the phrase 'how much they mean'. What does that even mean? Let's discuss the popular one, #metoo and #timesUp issues, which are honestly a tip of the iceberg of women's problem. Only because the 'victims' are within Hollywood parameter, they become an explosion in the world. In the past, I have read and heard so much worse problems women had to face; discrimination, pressure, harassment, human-rights violation, planned marriage, political marriage, affairs, abort...

Belakangan ini, trend berkunjung dan update status lagi di museum sedang hits, baik di dalam maupun luar negeri, baik kalangan pelajar maupun masyarakat umum. Selain karena alasan mau belajar sejarah, ternyata ke museum juga memperkaya pengetahuan kita tentang hal baru yang belum kita dengar sebelumnya. Di Ibukota Jakarta, tentunya banyak nama museum yang terlintas di pikiran kamu, tapi coba cek tiga museum berikut ini, dijamin banyak yang bahkan tidak tau keberadaan museum ini. 1.      Museum Jendral Abdul Harris Nasution. Gerakan Pemberontakan 30 September 1965 pastinya bukan hal yang asing buat kita semua; pasti pernah dengar atau bahkan belajar di bangku sekolah saat pelajaran sejarah. Peristiwa pemberontakan terhadap ideologi Pancasila ini terjadi dengan sangat keji di sebagian besar wilayah Indonesia terutama pulau Jawa. Prasasti, nama dan peninggalan juga banyak terangkum di Museum Lubang Buaya atau yang juga dikenal sebagai Museum P...