Don't Sleep When Your Wife Doesn't

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Biggest mistakes men make:
1. They ignore the details
2. They sleep before their wives.

Let me tell you: Don't.

Female is the most complicated creature in this world. They're made of a man's rib, yet they are not below men to be ordered and controlled. They are not above men because biologically and physically not equally as strong as men, yet they have this other powers that men don't.

One of those powers is presence.
A woman remembers what you said two weeks ago, what you didn’t notice yesterday, and how you looked at her just this morning. She lives in the details. The little things you ignore are the very things that shape how she feels loved, safe, and seen.

Don't believe her when she says "I'm okay", and "I'm used to it", and "it's not a big deal", and other too good to be true statements. No. She is not okay, and if you touch her in certain part(s) SHE WILL BREAKDOWN and probably burst into tears. She is on denial at most of the times, and she is so good at it.

And sleeping before her? It’s not about the bed—it’s about the message. When you choose to close your eyes before she does, you unconsciously tell her that her rest, her worries, her lingering thoughts don’t matter as much as your own. A woman wants to feel that her partner is her final companion of the day, that the one who shares her life is also willing to share the silence before sleep.

So, don’t rush to dreamland while she’s still awake. Sit or lay down with her. Listen, even if she talks in circles. Wait, even if it takes longer than you expected. Hold her hand. Let her feel that you are not just beside her, but with her.

Because love isn’t measured in grand gestures—it’s measured in that little attention, patience, in presence, and in the willingness to stay awake just a little longer for the one you promised to walk beside.

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